Are you nervous about the idea of becoming a mom? It’s perfectly normal to be excited about having a baby and becoming a mom but it’s also perfectly normal to be nervous about becoming a mom. I had motherhood figured out, that was until I was about to become a mother. Suddenly, the term mom had me becoming nervous a nervous wreck. A little one would be depending on me. At this point in my life, I didn’t even feel like a “real adult” at that point. As doubt grew in my mind so did the fear and I felt like I didn’t know how to do anything.
Perhaps you are still young or perhaps you are going into the journey of parenthood with out a partner to depend on. Maybe you are like I was, just growing afraid at the fear of someone depending on you. Whatever your case may be I want you to know that it’s perfectly normal to feel these feelings. It’s also important to let someone, anyone know the you are feeling this way. Sometimes just talking about our feelings can help us overcome them.
If I could go back and redo anything it would be the feelings that I felt when I was first a mom. I had taken care of children my entire life and was beyond ecstatic to have a baby of my own. My husband was supportive and a caring man, I also knew that he would be a great dad. What I didn’t know was whether or not I would be a good mom.
As the end of my pregnancy grew near those doubts became stronger, like whispers of lies into my ears. The point in my pregnancy had arrived to where I was going to the doctor every week.
Then my due date came. Still no baby. My ankles were swollen, it was hot outside and my hormones were all over the place. On one hand I was excited about having a baby but that excitement was overshadowed by the fear of many things. How badly would labor hurt? Could I be a good mom? Will my baby be okay? There are many things that moms ask themselves, as I’m sure that you are aware. Inside my belly we had this great bond, him and I. I could tickle his toes, I could feel him hiccup and move every day around the same time of the day, I knew him and could take care of him in that way. I wasn’t sure if I could do the same after my pregnancy, I was afraid of the unknown.
Sitting in the waiting room of what became my last doctor’s appointment, I began to cry, I’m not even sure why I was crying but I was. Soon, the door open and there stood a team of midwives all whispering to themselves, I could tell they were discussing me. Sure enough, one of them walked by way and asked me to come with her. The moment the door closed behind us I was surrounded by ladies asking me what was wrong. I told them I was afraid of being a mom. I was afraid that I wasn’t going to be good enough. I told them of my husband preparing the nursery and how I hadn’t even taken the time to find a location for clothes and diapers and I was just afraid I wouldn’t be a good mom to my baby.
Advice For The Nervous Mom To Be
May I share something with you? Something my midwife shared with me?
She told me the simple fact that I was so concerned about not being a good mom was an indicator that I would be a great mom.
I didn’t really believe her at the time but it’s true. You see, moms who don’t care about their babies are the ones who aren’t good. Moms that care about their babies and care about being a good mom are great moms. You may not feel like you have your act together, you may not feel that you know how to raise a baby. Yet, just the simple fact that you are reading this post is an indication that you want what is best for your baby. As long as you are able to care for your baby then you will be a good mom.
Don’t worry about tomorrow and what the unknown has in store for you. Take care of you and your baby today, and in doing so you will be taking care of your baby for life. Eat right, rest with your feet up, listen to calming music. Talk to your baby and rub your belly, that bond that you develop now will only grow stronger over time.
Did you enjoy reading this post but are still concerned that your life may be too broken? If so then you may find great benefit reading Beauty & The Broken by Lauren Buckner. In this easy to read devotional, Lauren shares how God takes brokenness and broken people and uses them for beautiful purposes.