I had no clue being a working mom would be so overwhelmingly difficult at times. Truth be told, before I was one I didn’t understand why any mom would choose that path. Then reality happened. Life happened and now that I have the option to stay at home all day I am still working. It’s okay to love working! Who knew?
At first I remember being so overwhelmed with emotion that we didn’t have enough money for me to be a stay at home mom. I couldn’t get past my own self to see just how wonderful the blessing was that God was sending my way, the ability to see life from a new perspective. I didn’t know how strong women really were. Or better yet, I didn’t know how strong working moms are. It takes a special kind of woman to balance it all, even if you don’t think there is any balance, you are still balancing. Give yourself some credit!
10 Things Working Moms Need To Know
You are strong
The days of believing men and women have certain jobs are long behind us. As a working mom, especially if you are single, you will notice that there are times where you’ve been put to the test of the sexes, you’ve been expected to do jobs that at one point in time would have been handed off to a man. In the midst of that you may have gained a new sense of strength. If you haven’t discovered it in the work force you certainly have discovered it at home. It takes strength and determination to wake up everyday, gather the kids, get ready for work, get them ready for school and then go out for the day. Only to come home and be greeted by the need to prepare dinner and clean house after working all day. Add family errands and events and suddenly that strength comes in while you least expect it. It takes a lot of strength physically and mentally to do all that you do.
You are doing a good job
You may not think you are doing a good job, but you are. Sure, the laundry is in a heap and you may have not washed dishes a single day this week but that doesn’t mean you aren’t doing a good job. Look around, you are provided for your family, you have healthy children, hopefully a happy marriage, you have a roof over your read and a career. You may be trying to live up to magazine standards and you may feel like you are falling short, but I’m here to tell you that you are doing a wonderful job. Believe that, know that.
You can say no
Have you ever been asked to do something at work that you feel is too much? It may not be too much for another employee, one without a family but if it’s too much for you, say my. Too often working moms don’t say no to the very same question that working dad’s say no to in a heartbeat. Know your value, know your balance. Say no to everything that is not worthy of your time and effort.
You won’t be able to do everything for everyone
There will be times, especially outside of work, where you will want so badly to help someone out. Sadly enough, you can’t do everything for everyone- not even your own kids. Help when and where you can and give everything else to God in prayer.
It’s okay to go to bed with dishes in the sink (again)
I love better homes and garden and I would adore for my house to look like it is picture worthy but that’s not the case. I set a cleaning routine into action and I advise you to do the same because it does help but what works for one woman and her family may not work for the other. There is nothing wrong with going to bed with dishes in the sink. Don’t be ashamed, instead be proud that you can feed your family.
No life is perfect
Facebook. Instagram. Pinterest and all the rest. What you see in the picture is not the full picture. There are always tears, there may be potty training accidents, sick kids throwing up, divorce and the works. Don’t ever envy the life of another, just focus on the happiness of you and your own family.
Your children love you
You may have worked late, you may have watched a television show where the kid is always sad because the parent always works. Try not to sweat it too much, show your kids you love them in those moments you have together. Ask them how their day was, take them somewhere special, let them invite a friend over. Believe it or not, your kids don’t need you every waking moment. They just need to know that they are important to you and that you truly care about them.
You aren’t letting your family down
Enough with the mommy guilt already! The fact that you care enough about your family to worry about whether or not you are doing the right thing is a clear indication you are acting in their best interest. They will love having a strong, powerful working mother as an example and role model to look up to.
It’s okay to rest
Put the kids to bed, prop up your feet, pour a glass of wine and binge on some good tv. Better yet, sleep in this weekend, make brunch instead of breakfast. Just relax. You will be in a better mood and will enjoy spending time with your family this way, and they will enjoy spending time with you this way as well. If you need to just go ahead and mark it down on the calendar so that it is planned rest, then when people ask you if you have plans for the weekend you can say that your day is already booked and you won’t even have to feel bad about it.
It’s okay to leave the work at work
Not only is it just okay but it’s healthy for you and your entire family relationship. Tell the boss no and don’t even begin to let that worry you.