There are so many things for moms to worry over. Raising kids who love God is just one of the many worries mom sometimes face because the fact is there are so many areas of life for moms to ponder about did I do everything right? Will I mess it all up? Have I already messed it all up? Can I fix it? Will I make it worse?
As a new mom, you worry about the right bottle, the right diaper, the right wipes, whether or not to vaccinate or have your child circumcised. These are all valid areas to take your time and consideration in. Then your baby becomes a toddler and the worry changes, it changes again when your child is ready to go to school and many, many, many times throughout out your child’s life. Suddenly you have to consider the actions of yourself, your child and their peers on a daily basis. You have to find a balance between worry, faith and letting go in each and every new phase of life.
So, where does God come in?
We know that God cares for the little children, some of us have been taught this since we were children ourselves. What we don’t always know is the answer to raising kids who love God. Sure, we can turn to parenting magazines across the world for which items must go in the hospital bag but where are the parenting magazines for raising kids who love God? Where is the advice when you are up late at night worrying because you just found out your teenage daughter may or may not be pregnant? Where is the advice for when your son screams that he hates you and wants to run away? Better yet, where is the advice when you are wondering whether or not your child has accepted Christ as their Savior? Where is the Biblical advice for all of life’s greatest and daily problems?
In the Bible of course!
Being A Christian Doesn’t Mean Raising Christian Kids
This is hard but it’s the truth. Just because you are saved doesn’t mean that your children are. Just because you believe in God doesn’t mean that your children will. It doesn’t make you a bad person either, it’s just that we each have our own free will, including our children. For many of us, this truth rings loud in our ears, we know this truth all too well. We see examples of this in the book of 1st Samuel and also in Job. Two different stories, same outcome, children with godly parents who don’t believe or follow after God in the same way. In one scenario Eli ignores the wrongs of his sons, perhaps believing that God will show mercy on them because they are the sons of a godly man. In Job, we see a man daily in prayer and distraught over the life that his children are living. He begs the LORD Almighty to pardon his children. Ultimately we as parents are not God and we can’t force our children to believe in God. We have however been given the responsibility of ministering to our children with the understanding that one day they must choose. Heaven or Hell. God or Satan. There are only two choices.
What’s The Key To Raising Kids Who Love God?
As we just established, it’s personal for your children to choose. However, we as their parents, biologically or not can help shape their personal relationship with the LORD, here’s how.
- Create A Solid Foundation
- Bring The Bible To Life
- Bring God’s Word Into Your Own Life
- Go Forth
- Establish Biblical Routines
- Find Others Who Will Minister To Your Children As Well
- Pray, Pray, Pray
Create A Solid Foundation
And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.” Matthew 18:3
Never take for granted the moments when your child is still young. Don’t assume that just because your child isn’t talking yet that he or she isn’t learning. Sing Bible songs to your babies as you rock them to sleep. Read Bible stories to them from a young age. Open up Biblical discussions while they are still young. This helps strengthen your own relationship with God, as well as theirs.
Bring The Bible To Life
Jehovah has given us a living breathing Word.
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. John 1:1
Don’t ever make the mistake of assuming this is just an old document. It’s not! This is the living breathing Word of the LORD. One day you’ll discover something that you had no clue was there. One day you might see prophecy come forth from words that you’ve read hundreds of times.
During the ministry of Jesus, he brought the Word to life by examples that those around him could relate to. Do that for your kids! They may not be old enough yet to understand the how or why to every story in the Bible but neither are you. That’s not to say that you can’t get something out of it. Pull up pictures of Biblical locations on the internet for your kids to have a visual, you might just learn something yourself. Go find a mustard seed, don’t just tell them it’s small – show them.
Bring God’s Word Into Your Own Life
Please don’t expect your children to fall in love with the Giver of Life if you have not fallen in love yourself.
First at home, then out. Be ministers to those in your house, in your school district, on your baseball field, at the grocery stores, the restaurants. Have you yet grasped that the world is a dying place? Have you truly taken the time to think about what that means for your neighbor? Are they going to Heaven or are they going to Hell? Find out. Your kids may not see everyone you minister to but they will ultimately see that there is passion in your heart for this and that will translate to them for many years to come. Go forth. Give to others who are in need but don’t just stop at the physical needs, our world is in spiritual need as well.
Establish Biblical Routines
I’m the product of Christian and private schools as well as homeschooling. It breaks my heart to know that my son will never attend a chapel service. To think that he won’t have a teacher talking to him daily about the Word of The Lord hurts on a level I never expected. As a kid I never thought twice about chapel service, sometimes it was a free ride class. Other times chapel was a burden to me. Occasionally chapel was enjoyable. I took it for granted, now as an adult, I understand that a Bible class each morning and a chapel service once a week every week had a major role in my life. My son won’t get that, your kids might not get that either. I haven’t found our Biblical routine as a family in the midst of our crazy busy lives. I want to but until then I’ll take as much advantage of the next two points as I possible can.
Find Others Who Will Minister To Your Children As Well
This may be a Sunday school teacher. This may be a youth leader. This may be the mom who picks your kids up on days that you can’t. It may your parents. Here’s my point with this; at some point in your child’s life, they will decide that what you say doesn’t matter. Having someone else in their life who believes what you believe and can tell them the same thing that you would tell them is not something to take for granted. They may at times shrug and roll their eyes at even this other minister in their life but the words that are spoken from your mouth and from their mouth won’t fall void, especially if you are praying.
Pray, Pray, Pray
Oh Mommas, pray. When you stop praying, pray again. Pray until tears run out of your eyes. Pray until you can’t breathe. Pray when you don’t know what to pray. Pray for their lives. Pray for their future, pray for the ones that they will marry. Pray for their children. Find someone else who will pray with you. Pray, Pray, Pray. Hold the LORD to His Word. Pray like Hannah prayed for Samuel.
Read Beauty And The Broken by Lauren Buckner, a devotional for overcoming “not good enough”.