Uplifting Your Family
Normally I write something on Monday related to marriage. I had the words in mind but never published them. It’s been a goal of mine to remain consisted in blogging, eventually I would like to get to the point in my life where you can depend on me to be here updating this blog everyday, Monday thru Friday. Simply put, I want you to be able to find something new and encouraging every day of your work week.
However, yesterday’s post never happened. You see, other things came up. Nothing major. Or, so it may not seem major to you but the reality is that the little things in life are truly major things when it comes to my priorities.
When it comes to my life wiping little bums is significantly more important than typing on a computer. Finding a towel and teaching a two year old to clean up her spills is more important than updating the Facebook page for this website. Sitting two young children in time out for coloring on the walls with pens and markers is way more important than editing pictures for post or designing new products for the store.
You see, it’s true that I am a blogger, it’s true that I maintain the website and social media for this site as well as for my local church and it’s true that I have a store full of inspirational gifts. But. It’s also true that I am a wife and mother.
That doesn’t mean that making the decision to set other responsibilities aside to be there for my family is always an easy decision. It can seem rather difficult and almost impossible at times to balance it all and perhaps those are the moments when you and I are balancing too much. Perhaps those are the moments when we need to step back and reexamine our hearts.
Where do your priorities lie?
I know that you have to be at work on time in the mornings. I understand that your boss will not understand excuses related to potty training and teething. I truly do get that. I know that there are so many pressures in your life. Will the bills be paid on time? How much money will the groceries cost? Will there be extra for Christmas? Is there a way to get your hands on magical creatures that clean the house for you while you are gone? How quick can dinner be put on the table? Will the kids even eat that new recipe that you want to try or will it be a waste of grocery money?
The truth is, we are all mothers. We may not all be wives but to those of us who are, our husbands should be above our children in the level of importance, he was there first and he will be there long after the children are grown.
Does it build up your family?
When you are running out the door late because you can’t seem to find the toddlers shoes, it can be easy to yell and scream. Ask me how I know. Yet it does nothing to solve the issue. When your children are running around acting as wild as the lost boys it is so tempting to stomp and scream and holler with the best of them, but does it uplift? When your husband puts your new sweater dress in the dryer, does it encourage him to help again if you tell him how stupid he was for not knowing to hang it up?
How To Uplift Your Family
As mothers, our roles are unique. Yes, we may also be firefighters and cashiers. We could be stay at home moms or corporate managers but at the end of the day, we are mom. We are honey, wife, baby, darling, mom, momma, mommy.
Our roles are caregivers, we are to be nurturers.
That means setting aside yourself and putting others first, I do believe there is a balance and you can read about the importance of taking care of yourself here. But when we grow old and we are tired, how do we want our family to remember us? Do we want them to say that we worked all the time or do we want them to say that we were gentle, caring and kind?
When you want to yell at your children, ask yourself if that is the best way to handle the situation? Can it not be taught or lead by example instead?
When you snap in bitterness at your husband, apologize and ask for forgiveness.
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