You dreamed of the day that you could become a mother, and your desire was to one day be a stay at home mom. You knew the importance of early childhood development and that a baby is only a baby once. So you strived hard to become a stay at home mom and life was wonderful. The end.
Okay, probably not. Maybe things felt great for a while but maybe you were completely and totally exhausted also. I know I am. Perhaps some days you don’t have the energy to even take a shower, despite the fact that you are covered in spit up. I’ve been there. Your friends on Facebook are always posting about how cute their kids are and how wonderful life is now that they are a parent. Meanwhile, you’re yelling at the oldest kid to get his hands out of the toilet while you cry because the baby is crying again. Yeah, I’ve been there also.
My children were born fifteen months apart, so simple tasks like going to the grocery store became a workout that needed planning. My hormones from the first pregnancy were just beginning to balance themselves out when I became pregnant again. By the time my daughter was born I was an emotional wreck.
Fast forward a few years, my oldest is in preK and my youngest will be in preK next year. A part of me thought I would go back to work once the kids were in school but now I’m not so sure. There are days when I feel guilty about being a stay at home mom while my kids go to school and there are days when I know it’s the right thing for my family. At least for now.
Regardless of all of this it’s very easy to simply not take care of myself now that I’m a stay at home mom. I was talking to a dear friend of mine, she’s also a blogger and you can find her site here about how when we wake up in the morning we have a running list of things that must be accomplished. Then we started talking about how different life is now that neither one of us are working outside of the home. When we worked outside the house we woke up and had to get ready, our jobs depended on us taking care of ourselves. We showered daily. Do you understand? Now, life is different. It’s not bad, it’s just different.
When we wake up in the morning our jobs are already there, feed the children. Help them get out the door for school. Do the laundry, do the dishes, sweep the floor, prepare the menu for the week. Before we know it, we’ve skipped over the part of our day where we woke up and took care of ourselves. As time goes on we begin to feel bad about ourselves and that could lead to some depression battles and the over all feeling of not being good enough. It’s time to put that to an end. It’s time to start feeling better about yourself as a stay at home mom!
10 Tips To Feeling Better About Yourself As A Stay At Home Mom
- Know It’s Okay To Take Care Of Yourself
- Understand that taking care of the family and the house is not a task done in vain
- Take A Shower
- Put On Makeup and Do Your Hair
- Wash Your Clothes (not just those of other family members)
- Go Out For A Cup Of Coffee
- Paint Your Nails
- Find A Friend (it can even be the elderly lady up the street)
- Enjoy A Hobby
- Get Active (here’s why I decided to join a gym)
If you are just feeling a little down and need to get your spirits back up in order to even enjoy the thoughts of the things mentioned above then may I suggest the following?
5 Easy Ways To Feel Happier Now
- Play some uplifting music
- Spend time in the Word of the Lord (you are more then welcome to join our Busy Mom Daily Devo group on Facebook) If you are looking for a new daily devotional then I’d like to invite you to read Beauty & The Broken.
- Open up the curtains and let in some sunlight
- Open up the door and let in some fresh air
- Look for bright colors. Occasionally I hope on over to Pinterest and search for items that lift my spirits. I do this by color, you can see an example of that by looking at my own board and then maybe you’ll feel inspired to do something similar.