Do you ever wonder if you are being the best mom that you can be? Maybe you know that you’re not but you don’t know how to be a better mom. Don’t worry this isn’t going to be one of those let me hate on all the parents and parenting type of post. I hate those. Honestly, they are out there. I even saw one this weekend that made a list of all of the horrible ways parents make mistakes. I highly doubt that the person who wrote the post was even a parent. Seriously, if we are being honest than we know that we all make mistakes. Some of us may make more than others but I like to think that for the most part parents are working hard to be the best that they can be for their kids.
4 Easy Ways To Be A Better Mom
Take Time For Yourself
After my oldest was born the very last thing I wanted to do was take care of myself. Looking back I can see that I even felt a bit guilty for the times that I did manage to care for myself. Also looking back, I probably would have been a happier mommy if I had taken better care of me from time to time. You see, I didn’t even eat properly. The moment my stomach was growling my son would also become hungry and need to nurse. Naturally, I pushed off eating until after I nursed him. By the time he finished eating he would need to be changed. As you can imagine, I would often just not eat.
After some time of this my husband began to notice what was happening and began making me eat. He also gave me the best piece of advice, which I will share with you.
“You can’t take care of others if you can’t take care of you.”
Mommas, occasionally taking care of yourself doesn’t make you a bad mother, it makes you a better mom.
Slow To Anger
According to the Bible love is slow to anger, yet us moms can be prone to outburst of anger. Often times this is because we don’t slow down to take care of ourselves. For myself, the outburst of anger are especially apparent when I don’t take the time to slow down and spend time with God. I believe that the more time we allow God to have in our daily lives, the slower to anger we become. When I wrote the Beauty & The Broken, I kept busy moms in mind by keeping the daily devotionals short enough to read while sitting in the carpool line. It’s so important that we restore our soul on a daily basis.
Let The Play
Children weren’t designed to be inside all day long. They are wild and their brains are full of so much potential. Instead of screaming “slow down!” and “stop running!” as often as you do, try replacing it with “let’s go outside!” and “who wants to play a game?”. You’ll find yourself cherishing the memories made from simply allowing your children the chance to play. If your kids they may protest but this just opens up the door for more opportunity to spend time with them because in the moments like that you build bridges towards future friendships with them as they grow older. Check out this list of 100 ways to play outside with kids.
Remember Motherhood Is A Ministry
I recently shares a personal story with the amazing group of moms who join together weekly reading our letters. In this particular letter I shared how the days are long but the years are short. I also shared a personal story of what this looks like in my own life as a mother.
You see, our lives becoming overwhelming and frustrating at times. There may even be times when we ask God why He gave us such heavier burdens to carry than others around us. I’m not saying that it’s wrong to wonder but if we can just change our mindsets from seeing the journey of motherhood to seeing the ministry within motherhood then that path no longer looks as overwhelming. Let us not forget that our children are gifted to us as Samuel was gifted to Hannah.