Before becoming a parent I never thought twice about putting myself down. However, once my children started talking freely I noticed they sometimes had a negative attitude and I didn’t want that for them. I longed for them to believe that they could do or be anything and so I started looking into ways to help my child develop a positive attitude. Turns out, the change had to start with me.
I see so much potential in my children that sometimes they don’t see in themselves. There may be times when things start to get a little bit difficult and I can tell that they’ve almost reached their destination, that thing that they’ve been working so hard on is almost completed and I’ll get excited right about the same time that they let out “I can’t do it!” and then they stop. Just like that. From my mommy viewpoint, we were about to watch them succeed, they were so close and suddenly they won’t even try again.
Have you ever been in that place with your child? How many times have you wanted something and you’ve gone for it and whatever you were working on got tough, you may have thought to yourself that you could still do it, so you kept on. Then that very same thing gets a little bit more difficult and more difficult and suddenly it doesn’t look like it’ll ever be worth it and then you just quit. Maybe for you, it was weight loss or working from home, maybe for your kid it’s building a lego tower or riding a bike. Some may seem more difficult than the other but it’s really all about the mindset, do you believe?
A few weeks back I had the pleasure of attending a live webinar, I’ve registered for countless webinars that I’ve never shown up to but this one was different, I paid for it. I was invested. Originally I was supposed to go to a friends house and we were going to have a viewing party but one thing just kept coming up after the other and it seemed like I would miss yet another webinar. For some reason, everything that kept coming up fell through and so I sat at my house, all alone that day, in my pajamas watching a webinar and I’m so glad that I did. Initially, the webinar was supposed to be on selling and since I need selling tips I was willing to purchase a ticket, the whole time thinking to myself that purchasing a ticket was probably a sells-gimmick that I had just fallen prey to. Notice that negative mindset there?
It didn’t take long into the webinar for me to realize this was not at all what I thought, this was all about mindset and it was everything I needed. This was what I was missing, not just in sales, but in life. I took the tips there that day and I applied them to my life. My kids started noticing a difference, a friend asked me what sort of drug I was on and my husband thought he was getting ready to die. My positive outlook on life was that abnormal. So, I’ve taken some of those tips and I’ve started using them with my children.
The beauty with young children is that it doesn’t take long to see a difference, a teenager may take a bit longer but don’t give up. Whatever you do, don’t give up on the development of positive mindset.
Help Your Child Develop A Positive Attitude
Are you ready for this piece of gold? This magic that has changed my life and the lives of my children? Are you ready to know what’s missing and why everything seems so difficult? Do you want to know what makes your success harder than the success of others? Do you want your children to see the true value that lies within them? Do you want them to soar with pride and belief that they can do anything that they put their mind to? If so, then just do this one little thing. Daily.
That’s it. Notice I didn’t say read truth or believe truth I said to speak the truth. We are not God but we were created in the likeness of God and how did God create the entire universe around you and I, the hard-working ant, the snowflake, the elephant, the narwhal? He spoke them into existence.
Start With You
Go into your bathroom. Create two fists, spread your legs apart and put your fist on your hips. You should be standing in a position that looks like a superhero ready to save the day. Now, out loud speak truth to the image of yourself in the mirror. “I was created with a purpose.” “I was meant to be happy.” “I can do XYZ”. If you are not willing to do this then you will not be able to move onto the next step because the next step involves your child and I guarantee you that they will call your bluff. Here’s the thing, I want you to do this for days, maybe even a few weeks before you take it to the next step. You need to be completely confident in what you are saying and for some of us that may take a while.
Say It With Your Child
After you no longer feel awkward doing the step above I want you to start this with your child. A teenager would rather die. If your child thinks you are mad then just laugh, do it by yourself and come back to do it again the next day. Do this day in and day out until they roll their eyes and join in with you. Then teach them to say the truths with confidence. “I am good enough.”, “I can do anything I want to do.”, “God wants me to be happy.”, “I can be happy”, “I am smart”, “I will do XYZ because I believe that I can.”.
This works for younger guys and older guys. When my children say something negative or look a little down we do this with them. We even do this in the car on the way to school now and it does make a difference.
You’ll soon notice that your child will be less likely to say “I can’t”. Just this morning I overheard my daughter telling herself positive affirmations and that made my heart so glad because I hadn’t coached her to do so today, she was naturally doing it herself. This might seem like a small step towards success but developing a positive attitude will go very far in helping your child succeed in so many areas of life.
On my quest to discover how to help my children develop a positive outlook on life I also ran into some great books that I highly recommend for parents who seem to be struggling to understand what is going on with their kids. The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind probably wouldn’t be a great fit for a parent of teenagers but the other books are great for children of any age.