What You Should Do When Your Husband Doesn’t Want To Be Around You
Are you left in despair when your husband doesn’t want to be around you? Do you ask yourself why? Do you wonder if he is having an affair or wonder if there is something about you that he finds unattractive? The answer may be simple. It may not be something beyond your control to fix but if left unchecked it can very easily end a marriage.
Sometimes the fault is on the husband, but this isn’t a site for men. This is a site for women, so today, I want to talk about the wife in the marriage. Not the husband. More specifically, I want to talk about our temperament.
Are you pleasant to be around?
Do the words that come out of your mouth feel sweet or do they feel like you are cutting your spouse’s soul out with a sword. If the tables were turned and your husband was as short tempered with you as you are with him, would you want to spend time with him?
Often times our husbands do not work in the best environments, often times they are handed the crude jobs where vulgarity surrounds them. Sometimes they spend all day listening to customers and leaders yell at them for their incapacity. Then, when they come home they are not greeted with love but rather they are yelled at for the very same thing that they have heard all day; that they are just simply not good enough.
It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house. -Proverbs 25:24
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs talks in his book, Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs about how a mother would be enraged to see her son grow up and marry a woman that always belittles him, but yet, most women treat their husbands in that very same manner. Dr. Eggerichs then goes on to ask wives how they would feel if their sons married a woman like them. Often times we only think of this scenario with dads and daughters, but the table can be turned both ways.
When you were dating your spouse you probably looked past all the annoying habits. Most likely you treating him with more patience than you do today. Perhaps, you even looked forward to seeing him. Do you still look forward to seeing him? What changed?
Monday Marriage Challenge:
–Prepare the house for your husband’s arrival. Think about him as the day goes on. Ask God to prepare your heart to meet him with a loving spirit.
-Work outside the home? You may not be able to prepare the house for his arrival but you can still choose to greet him in a spirit of love. Tonight, when you see him, do not take seeing him for granted. Instead, embrace him with love.